While it is true that what we do to others we do to ourselves, offenders don't feel regret unless they are caught. They feel no consequences. Some even feel good about it...until they are caught. Most incarcerated rapists feel remorse. Those who never got caught feel nothing if not good about what they've done.
They think they are making the victims' dream come true by fulfilling a sexual fantasy they imagine the victim has even when he is beating (sometimes to death) the victim. NOT TRUE! They are glad they didn't get caught. They didn't think they would get caught so feel like this is a safe crime.
They think they are doing nothing wrong and the law is not right when it comes to child sexual abuse. They feel that they have a special relationship with the child and that the child is much older than she/he really is. Rapists feel they will get away with it because victims seldom report it.
16 out of 17 rapists will spend a night in jail. .05% of pedophiles are punished for their crimes. Children make very bad witnesses because of their limited language development and they can be coached and threatened by others to say what the rapists want them to say.
Often the offender is someone the child knows and trusts. Often it is the father figure in the child's life. I've included rapists and molesters in this note. Often the rapist is someone the woman knows and trusts.
Both of these crimes tend to happen in places in which the victims feel a measure of safety: Home and church. It's very rare for a complete stranger to rape a person/child. It is very rare for it to happen in a parking lot or ally.